A random collection of over 1994 books and audiobooks authored by or about my transgender, intersex sisters, and gender-nonconforming persons all over the world. I read some of them, and I was inspired by some of them. I met some of the authors and heroines, some of them are my best friends, and I had the pleasure and honor of interviewing some of them. If you know of any transgender biography that I have not covered yet, please let me know.
Full title: "Becoming Tamara: My Story of Transition From Male to Female" by Tamara Rivera.
Tamara Rivera’s memoir “Becoming Tamara: My Story of Transition From Male to Female” is more than a personal narrative. It is a testament to the power of truth, courage, and the unyielding human spirit that fights its way toward the light even when surrounded by years of shadow. Her book invites readers into a life shaped by hardship and reborn through authenticity, a story that unfolds with honesty and deep emotional resonance. Reading it feels like sitting across from Tamara herself as she recounts the moments that tested her, the memories that shaped her, and the transformation that ultimately liberated her.
From the first pages, Tamara’s voice emerges with striking clarity. She writes not as someone seeking sympathy but as a woman determined to share the truth of her lived experience. Her childhood was not painted with ease. It was threaded with confusion, fear, and the ache of hiding a self she could not yet name. The world placed expectations on her that never fit, yet she carried them because she had no other choice. The decades that followed were marked by the difficult balancing act so many transgender people know too well, the one where survival becomes a habit rather than a life. Tamara takes the reader through these years without bitterness. Instead, she reflects on them with the perspective of a woman who has finally stepped into her rightful place and looks back only to illuminate the path for others.
2025,
English,
Tamara Rivera,
Original title: "Nas esquinas do cuidado: Brenda Lee e a redução de danos" (At the crossroads of care: Brenda Lee and harm reduction) by Julia Bueno.
Julia Bueno’s “Nas esquinas do cuidado: Brenda Lee e a redução de danos” is a book that refuses to remain neatly within the boundaries of academic analysis, biography or political manifesto. It is all of these at once and something more. It is a work that listens deeply to the voices of trans women and travestis who have lived and shaped the practices of harm reduction in Brazil long before the term became a formal public policy. It is an exploration of how care emerges not as an abstract ideal but as a daily struggle, an inventive survival strategy and a place where memory, rage, tenderness and political consciousness collide. The book widens the contemporary debate on health and human rights by focusing on the lives of those who are most often neglected in both fields and by insisting that any meaningful discussion about care must take into account the structural conditions that make certain bodies more vulnerable, more visible and more exposed to violence.
2025,
Brazil,
Julia Bueno,
Portuguese,
Original title: "Fétiche par Fétiche" (Fétiche by Fétiche) by Marie- Pierre Vancallement.
Fétiche par Fétiche is not simply a memoir, nor is it a nostalgic tour of Parisian nightlife. It is the intimate reconstruction of a life that began in pain and uncertainty and grew into a luminous legend of cabaret, femininity, artistry, and resistance. Marie-Pierre Vancallement, known to the public as Fétiche, invites readers into a world where glamour was stitched together with courage, where the stage lights burned away fear, and where a child who once cried in the shadows of Northern France learned to dazzle the world with a serene, unforgettable presence.
The book begins with the story of a child who was not born Fétiche and not even born Marie-Pierre, but Serge. From the first pages, the reader is confronted with a portrait of a young boy subjected to physical abuse and emotional terror, who clung to a dream that seemed, at the time, impossible. That child longed to be a girl and longed to escape the narrow streets and suffocating rules of her hometown. Rather than dwell in tragedy, the book traces how this young person transformed hardship into a kind of burning determination. The early chapters follow Serge’s evolution into an enterprising young man who had little more than ambition and a stubborn refusal to remain trapped. He eventually gathered the courage to leave the North and join a touring group of singers, a bold act that opened the road to Paris and to her future self.
2025,
Fétiche,
French,
Marie- Pierre Vancallement,
Full title: "Becoming Her: Transitioning After Forty" by Mallery GenX.
In a culture that glorifies wrinkle-free ambition and the illusion that personal reinvention expires sometime before your twenty-ninth birthday, Mallery GenX arrives with a story that gently but firmly sweeps that myth aside. Her memoir, Becoming Her: Transitioning After Forty, is an intimate testament to the truth that transformation does not diminish with age. If anything, it becomes richer, deeper, and undeniably more honest. Mallery steps into her womanhood not with the blinding glare of youthful urgency, but with the hard-earned clarity of lived experience. She is not trying to outrun time. She is trying to meet herself.
Before she ever questioned her own reflection, Mallery spent more than two decades helping other people assemble theirs. As a salon owner and stylist, she built confidence with scissors, color, and conversation. She knew how to craft beauty for others down to the smallest detail. What she did not know was how to navigate the quiet ache sitting beneath her own exterior, a longing planted in childhood when she wished she could “be a gul,” spoken in the language of innocence long before she understood what it meant. That longing follows her into adulthood, shadowing her successes and celebrations until the day she finally allows it to take shape in the open.
2025,
English,
Mallery GenX,
Full title: "Venus Rising: The Unfinished Life of a Ballroom Icon Venus Xtravaganza" by Eleanor Hystoré.
Eleanor Hystoré’s Venus Rising: The Unfinished Life of a Ballroom Icon Venus Xtravaganza is a work of deep tenderness and fierce illumination. It reaches beyond the glitter of the ballroom floor to reveal the woman behind one of the most unforgettable faces of queer history. Through graceful prose and unflinching honesty, Hystoré brings Venus Pellagatti Xtravaganza back to life, tracing her journey from a teenage dreamer in Jersey City to a radiant symbol of self-creation and resilience in 1980s New York.
The book opens in the small, crowded home where Venus was born on May 5, 1965, the youngest of several siblings in an Italian-Puerto Rican family. Hystoré paints these early years with sensitivity, showing a child already attuned to beauty, movement, and performance. Venus’s first steps toward becoming herself were met with the kind of confusion and rejection familiar to many transgender people of her era. She left home young, seeking a world where her reflection would match her spirit. That world, she soon discovered, existed in the shadowy brilliance of the Harlem ballrooms.
It is here that Hystoré’s storytelling truly begins to shimmer.
2025,
Eleanor Hystoré,
English,
Venus Xtravaganza,
Original title: "Para os olhos que não enxergaram a humanidade em mim" (For the Eyes That Didn't See the Humanity in Me) by Maria F. Nicolau.
Maria F. Nicolau’s Para os olhos que não enxergaram a humanidade em mim is not merely a book but an act of defiance, tenderness, and reclamation. It stands as a poetic manifesto written from the edge where the body meets the word, where silence gives way to speech, and where erasure is met with the persistence of existence. Every page breathes the pain and resilience of a life lived at the intersection of rejection and self-affirmation. The title itself, which translates as For the Eyes That Didn’t See the Humanity in Me, challenges the reader before the first line is even read. It dares those who have refused to recognize the author’s humanity to confront the weight of their blindness.
This work is structured into four sections: Gênese Amorosa da Travestilidade, Incisão da Necessidade, Anatomia da Humanidade Negada, and Geografia do Afeto. Each part moves through the layered landscape of travesti experience, one that combines memory, trauma, and revelation in a rhythm that feels both intimate and revolutionary. Nicolau’s writing resists the neat boundaries of genre; it is poetry and testimony, philosophy and cry. Her words are cut from the raw material of life itself, stitched together by the necessity of survival and the hunger for love.
2025,
Brazil,
Maria F. Nicolau,
Portuguese,
Full title: "Unveiling Jordan: Beyond The Veil, She Lives On" by Elizabeth Howe and Edward Marsh.
“Unveiling Jordan: Beyond The Veil, She Lives On” by Elizabeth Howe and Edward Marsh is a heartbreaking yet profoundly inspiring memoir that captures the essence of a mother’s unconditional love and the enduring spirit of her daughter. It is a story that reaches far beyond one family’s tragedy and becomes a reflection of humanity’s struggle to understand, accept, and embrace those who live their truth in a world that often turns away. Elizabeth Howe opens her heart and soul on every page, sharing the emotional weight of losing her daughter, Jordan, a young transgender woman whose life was cut tragically short by suicide. What emerges is not only a story of grief but also one of awakening, healing, and the power of remembrance.
At the center of the book stands Jordan Howe, a vibrant young woman filled with dreams, laughter, and a longing for acceptance. She was not defined by her struggles but by her courage to live authentically. Yet, the world around her was not always kind. Jordan faced the invisible battles so many transgender individuals endure, daily confrontations with misunderstanding, rejection, and prejudice. Through Elizabeth’s eyes, readers witness the profound disconnect between who Jordan was and how society chose to see her. The pages pulse with the raw pain of a mother who watched her daughter’s light flicker in the face of relentless adversity, and yet they also reveal the fierce beauty of a love that refuses to fade.
2025,
Elizabeth Howe,
English,
Full title: "Hiding In Plain Sight: A Memoir" by Dana Abbott. The book was originally published in 2021 under the same title, but with a different name, Theresa Miles. In 2024, Theresa Miles published a sequel, "Full Disclosure: A Memoir".
Dana Abbott’s Hiding in Plain Sight: A Memoir is not the kind of book you simply read and set aside; it’s the kind that lingers, whispering reminders of courage and authenticity long after you close the final page. What began as a simple faith-inspired gratitude journal slowly grew into a profound exploration of identity, faith, and perseverance. For Dana, journaling was not merely an act of reflection, but a lifeline, a framework she clung to both before and after her transition. Through words that feel both intimate and universal, she invites readers to examine their own lives, to peel back the layers of fear and expectation, and to ask the most human question of all: who am I, really?
The memoir serves as more than a personal testimony. It’s a call to action, a mirror held up to society’s unrelenting pace and the individuals left gasping for air in its wake. Dana’s story reaches out to those who have been told to shrink themselves to fit within the limits of others’ comfort. She writes for anyone who has ever lived according to someone else’s script, lost in the chaos of unspoken doubts and unanswered questions. The book gently urges readers, especially LGBTQ+ youth and adults, to begin their own self-analysis, to rediscover what might have been buried under years of conformity. Rediscovery, Dana suggests, is not a single moment but a lifelong process, one of the most valuable and genuine parts of our journey on this Earth.
2021,
2025,
Dana Abbott,
English,
Theresa Miles,
Full title: "Dear Mom and Dad: A Conservative Transgender Memoir" by Camila Eran.
Camila Eran’s book Dear Mom and Dad: A Conservative Transgender Memoir is a raw, courageous, and deeply personal exploration of what it means to navigate life as a transgender person while maintaining a moderate, thoughtful perspective. In this memoir, Eran does not shy away from the emotional and physical realities of gender transition, laying bare her journey with honesty and clarity. She delves into the triumphs, the struggles, and the moments of profound self-discovery that have shaped her experience, offering readers an unflinching look at what it is like to live authentically in a world that often misunderstands or oversimplifies trans lives. Her reflections are as intimate as they are instructive, providing a lens into how transitioning has impacted her body, mind, relationships, and overall sense of self.
More than just a personal account, the book serves as a bridge between trans people and the people who love them. Eran writes directly to parents, family members, and friends who may be seeking clarity, understanding, or guidance. Her approach is compassionate, grounded, and deeply human, avoiding extremes, slogans, or the polarization that too often dominates discussions about gender identity. She takes care to explain her choices and experiences in a way that is accessible and relatable, inviting readers to step into her perspective and appreciate the nuance behind her decisions. Throughout the memoir, she grapples with the challenges of being a transgender person while maintaining a moderate voice, showing that it is possible to embrace one’s identity without subscribing to every prevailing ideology within the community.
2025,
Camila Eran,
English,
Original title: "Mi Cofre del Tesoro: Un viaje para encontrar la llave de mi felicidad" (My Treasure Chest: A Journey to Find the Key to My Happiness) by Paola Elena Flores.
In Mi Cofre del Tesoro: Un viaje para encontrar la llave de mi felicidad (My Treasure Chest: A Journey to Find the Key to My Happiness), Paola Elena Flores invites readers to embark on a deeply personal exploration of what it means to live authentically after years of conforming to roles imposed by family, faith, and culture. The book opens with a haunting question: what if the key to your happiness has always been in your own pocket, but you were taught to use everyone else’s? From this starting point, Paola builds a powerful metaphor that frames the entire memoir. Each of us, she suggests, is born with a treasure chest filled with joy, hope, and extraordinary moments, yet the chest is locked. Those around us, parents, teachers, and spiritual leaders, offer their keys, promising fulfillment if we follow their path. But for many, those borrowed keys fail to open the chest. Instead, they lead to guilt, shame, and a persistent feeling of not belonging.
Paola’s story is set against the backdrop of a strict fundamentalist Christian upbringing in Mexico, where faith dictated not only behavior but identity itself. From a young age, she was taught that happiness lay in obedience, sacrifice, and adherence to spiritual authority. As a youth pastor and seminary student, she tried to embody the perfect servant of God, a devoted husband and father who lived according to scripture. Yet beneath that façade was a deep and growing dissonance, an unspoken truth about who she really was. Her memoir unfolds as a battle between the person she was told to be and the person she always knew she was inside.
2025,
Mexico,
Paola Elena Flores,
Spanish,
Full title: "She/Him/Us: A Psychiatrist's Search for Her Daughter in the Transgender Sea" by Lisa Bellot.
In her striking and deeply personal memoir She/Him/Us: A Psychiatrist’s Search for Her Daughter in the Transgender Sea, Dr. Lisa Bellot confronts one of the most emotionally charged issues of our time through the lens of both a psychiatrist and a mother. The book chronicles her journey as she navigates the turbulent waters of her daughter’s sudden identification as transgender, a revelation that forced her to question not only her medical training but also her most intimate instincts as a parent. What emerges is a gripping and reflective narrative that challenges prevailing assumptions about gender identity, the mental health profession, and what it truly means to love and protect one’s child.
Dr. Bellot’s story begins with the shock and confusion that many parents of trans-identified teens experience. As a seasoned psychiatrist with two decades of clinical experience in California, she believed she had seen nearly everything the human mind could present. Yet when her own teenage daughter announced she was trans, Bellot found herself facing an entirely new emotional and moral frontier. She describes the moment with raw vulnerability, not as a detached clinician but as a mother whose world has tilted off its axis. Her initial instinct was not to affirm, but to pause and understand. The question that drives the memoir is not simply whether her daughter is transgender, but how a parent can respond when every cultural, medical, and social current demands unquestioning affirmation while her inner voice insists that something deeper needs to be explored.
2025,
English,
Lisa Bellot,
Full title: "You Don't Know My Story" by Whitney Sealey (Destiny Star).
Whitney Sealey’s You Don’t Know My Story, published under her pen name Destiny Star, stands as both a novel and a manifesto of authenticity. It is a deeply intimate yet universally resonant narrative that chronicles the life of Whitney, a transgender woman in her early thirties whose story is told with emotional precision and spiritual grace. More than a simple tale of transition, it is a meditation on truth, resilience, and the human capacity to reclaim one’s narrative in a world that often refuses to listen.
The book opens with Whitney’s morning ritual, a seemingly ordinary moment that soon reveals the core of her character. She looks into the mirror not out of vanity but out of reverence for survival. Her reflection becomes a sacred space, where she acknowledges the woman she fought to become. The world around her may still stumble over her existence, but Whitney refuses to shrink herself for anyone’s comfort. She moves through her days as a luxury brand consultant, gliding through polished offices and glamorous events, yet beneath the elegance lies a lifetime of scars. Sealey juxtaposes Whitney’s outer poise with her inner history, allowing readers to see that confidence, for Whitney, is not effortless, it is earned, shaped through pain and persistence.
2025,
Destiny Star,
English,
Whitney Sealey,
Full title: "Two Lives, One Soul: A Transgender Memoir of Identity of Gender, Loss, and Redemption" by Shearee K.
Two Lives, One Soul: A Transgender Memoir of Identity, Loss, and Redemption by Shearee K is a profoundly intimate and courageous account of what it means to live between worlds, to lose oneself, and to finally emerge whole. The memoir captures the delicate balance between despair and hope, exploring the emotional landscape of a person who has lived not one, but two lives within a single soul. Through a voice that is both poetic and unflinchingly honest, Shearee invites the reader to witness her evolution from pain to power, from invisibility to authenticity, and from loss to redemption.
The book begins by revealing the internal conflict of a person growing up in a world that often refuses to understand or accept difference. Shearee writes with a clarity that cuts through pretense, describing the experience of living a life shaped by others’ expectations while her true identity remained buried beneath fear and uncertainty. Her story moves through the formative years of self-doubt, societal rejection, and the relentless pursuit of belonging. Each chapter feels like a conversation with the soul itself, asking who we are when everything familiar is stripped away and how one learns to rebuild when the world demands conformity.
2025,
English,
Shearee K,
Full title: "I Know Who I Am: The Ballad of a Transgender Woman" by Samantha Rose and Christine Matheny.
When Samantha Rose opens her book I Know Who I Am: The Ballad of a Transgender Woman, she takes the reader into the raw depths of memory, pain, and transformation. The story begins when she was fourteen, at a time when her world was suddenly fractured by tragedy. Her best friend, Amanda Carson, disappeared on April 16, 2005. Amanda was later found dead in a trash barrel behind the Galesburg mall, an image so haunting that it becomes a defining shadow in Samantha’s life. Amanda had been the first person to truly see her, to understand her difference and encourage her to be herself. The loss of that friendship marked the beginning of Samantha’s awareness of the cruelty and fragility that can exist in life. In those same dark days, she also learned that her mother had cancer, a revelation that sent her spiraling into a storm of depression and uncertainty. The combination of grief, fear, and confusion pushed her inward, where she began to grapple with questions of identity and purpose that would echo through her entire life.
At home, the situation was far from comforting. Samantha’s relationship with her father was a source of constant pain. He never accepted her differences, never tolerated her sensitivity or her refusal to conform to his expectations of masculinity. He was, in her own words, a monster wrapped in human flesh, someone who abused his wife and children with a cruelty that left lasting scars. The household was a battlefield, where survival often depended on silence and endurance. For Samantha, this experience of relentless violence became both a source of trauma and a crucible of strength. It showed her how destructive intolerance could be, but it also taught her resilience, and it planted within her a determination to live authentically, even when authenticity came with a price.
2025,
Amanda Carson,
Christine Matheny,
English,
Samantha Rose,
Full title: "Becoming Luna: A Chronicle of Shadow and Light" by Luna Carper.
In the first few pages of Becoming Luna: A Chronicle of Shadow and Light, Luna Carper describes her former name, Brian, as “a heavy coat she was expected to wear.” It is an image that lingers long after the chapter ends, the weight of that coat symbolizing all the expectations, assumptions, and constraints placed upon her before she could even begin to understand who she truly was. What begins as a simple account of childhood discomfort quickly transforms into something extraordinary: the awakening of a soul determined to live in truth, even if that truth must be forged in the fires of digital worlds, shadowed dreams, and unrelenting self-discovery.
Carper’s memoir is not a typical transition story. It is a spellbook of becoming, written at the intersection of technology, magic, and identity. Each chapter feels like an incantation, casting light on the moments when Luna’s reality began to shift. From battling a childhood allergy that hinted at something deeper to discovering freedom within the pixelated landscapes of World of Warcraft, Luna finds pieces of herself in every digital echo. In those virtual realms she meets her first loves and encounters the mentors who see beyond her glamour spell, the digital façade she wore to hide her inner truth.
2025,
English,
Luna Carper,
Full title: "Fly on the Wall: The Story of a Courageous Trans Woman – From Prison to Post" by Ariyanna Lampley and Samari The Goddess.
“If you could be a fly on the wall and see what I see…” begins the haunting and defiant premise of Fly on the Wall: The Story of a Courageous Trans Woman – From Prison to Post by Ariyanna Lampley and Samari The Goddess. There is very little information available about the book, and beyond its brief description on Amazon, it seems to exist as one of those hidden gems waiting to be discovered. What we do know is that it tells the story of Samari the Goddess, a transgender woman who has survived the brutality of the prison system and emerged with her dignity, her artistry, and her voice intact.
The book’s title alone captures something both poetic and unsettling. To be a fly on the wall is to witness without being seen, to observe the unspoken truth of things. In Samari’s case, that truth is the reality of being a transgender woman behind bars, a world of fear, violence, and survival. Incarcerated transgender women often live in a space that denies their very identity. Many are placed in men’s prisons, where they face harassment and sexual assault. Basic medical care, including access to hormones or gender-affirming treatment, is often withheld. Even something as simple as being called by one’s chosen name can become a daily battle.
2025,
Ariyanna Lampley,
English,
Samari The Goddess,
Original title: "Meine zwei Leben: Als Junge geboren – als Frau im Bundestag" (My two lives: Born a boy – as a woman in the Bundestag) by Valerie Wilms.
Valerie Wilms’ book Meine zwei Leben: Als Junge geboren – als Frau im Bundestag (My Two Lives: Born a Boy – as a Woman in the Bundestag) is both a personal memoir and a political statement that challenges the direction of modern gender politics in Germany. Written with striking candor, it is the first time that Wilms, a former member of the Bundestag, publicly shares her life story and her experience as a transgender woman in politics. More than a simple autobiography, the book raises difficult questions about identity, authenticity, and the balance between personal freedom and social responsibility.
Born in 1954 in Hannover as Volker Wilms, Valerie Wilms built a distinguished career long before entering politics. She studied mechanical engineering at the University of Hannover and earned her doctorate in engineering from the University of the Bundeswehr in Hamburg. Her professional path was firmly rooted in technical expertise rather than activism. She worked in design engineering and later as a technical inspector for the railway industry before becoming a lecturer at the Dresden University of Applied Sciences. This solid technical background formed the foundation of her political career, which began when she joined the Green Party in 2005.
2025,
German,
Germany,
Valerie Wilms,
Full title: "Love, Me: Letters I Wrote When I Wanted to Disappear" by Dee Grachek.
Dee Grachek’s Love, Me: Letters I Wrote When I Wanted to Disappear is a hauntingly beautiful memoir that refuses to fit into neat literary categories. It is part confession, part prayer, and part poetry, written in the form of letters that bare the author’s soul with startling vulnerability. Through these letters, Dee Grachek opens the door to her interior world, inviting readers into the quiet spaces where shame and hope coexist, where faith and fear wrestle, and where a woman learns to love herself into being after years of silence.
Each letter feels like a breath held too long finally being released. Dee writes to God, to hope, to her younger self, to the Church that turned its back on her, to the body that has been both home and battleground, to the father whose love she yearned for, and even to the songs she can no longer sing but still remembers. These letters are not simply addressed to others, they reach inward and outward at once, touching every reader who has ever felt unseen or unworthy. The addressees are sometimes literal and sometimes symbolic, but each one reveals another layer of Dee’s life as a transgender woman learning to exist unapologetically in a world that often tells her she should not.
2025,
Dee Grachek,
English,
Full title: "Barbra Amesbury: Voice of Courage: A Journey Through Music, Identity, and Advocacy" by Charles Tyler JR.
In a world that so often insists on sameness, on fitting neatly into prescribed boxes of identity, appearance, and belief, what does it mean to live authentically? Charles Tyler Jr.’s Barbra Amesbury: Voice of Courage: A Journey Through Music, Identity, and Advocacy answers this question not through theory, but through the life of a woman who defied every expectation placed before her. This sweeping biography of Barbra Amesbury traces the evolution of a Canadian cultural icon who transformed herself and her art with breathtaking honesty, becoming a symbol of resilience, integrity, and creative defiance. Tyler’s portrait of Amesbury is not simply a chronicle of one artist’s career, but a meditation on the human right to live as one truly is, no matter the cost.
2025,
Barbra Amesbury,
Canada,
English,
Full title: "My Treasure Chest: A Journey to Find the Key to My Happiness" by Paola Elena Flores. The book was originally published in Spanish under the title "Mi Cofre del Tesoro: Un viaje para encontrar la llave de mi felicidad".
In her deeply moving memoir My Treasure Chest: A Journey to Find the Key to My Happiness, Paola Elena Flores invites readers into an intimate exploration of identity, faith, and self-discovery. Originally published in Spanish under the title Mi Cofre del Tesoro: Un viaje para encontrar la llave de mi felicidad, the book opens with a simple but profound metaphor. Each of us, Flores explains, arrives in this world with a treasure chest brimming with joy, hope, and happiness. Inside are the things that make life meaningful: love, connection, creativity, and purpose. Yet this chest is locked, and to access its riches, we need the right key.
In her narrative, Flores examines the ways we often inherit keys from others. Parents, teachers, pastors, and relatives, acting out of love and good intentions, hand us their versions of happiness. They tell us that their faith, traditions, and lifestyles will unlock our own chests. We believe them, because we trust them, and we try to make their keys fit. Sometimes they open a small corner of the lid, revealing a glimpse of what lies within, but more often they do not work at all. Flores captures the heartbreak of realizing that the tools given to us by others cannot always open the lock meant for us.
2025,
English,
Mexico,
Paola Elena Flores,
