Just Evelyn - ... mom, I need to be a girl

1998, English, Just Evelyn,

Full title: "... mom, I need to be a girl" by Just Evelyn.

"Phyllis Randolph Frye says, "I remember when Just Evelyn contacted me in 1994 or so for legal help for her teenage transsexual child, and I could give her none, other than strategies and role models, to encourage her to push the system to work for her daughter. And push she did.

Just Evelyn's book about her new daughter Danielle will join my personal list of four other books - boiled down after 23 years of out activism that I will recommend to folks like her to read. Actually, this is a must-read for ALL parents of ANY transgendered child of ANY age. It is heartwarming with touches of humor, insight, guidance and things to avoid. It is chatty and very readable.

I laughed as Danielle exceeded the expectations of her own very outgoing mother. I felt justified as I read of many of Damelle's learning problems being reduced or going away as she no longer carried the extra heavy burden within of hiding her true self. I cried several times as I read it because I felt Evelyn's love for her new daughter juxtaposed over my own parents and siblings 23 year of rejection and ostracism of me.

I clapped as I read Just Evelyn scold many in the helping professions who are often educated BY us, yet they charge a high fee or have a financial conflict of interest in their treatment regimes, and Ben, Just Evelyn, David, and Danielle give us little or no meaningful help at all. The excesses of the gatekeepers are exposed with details, and at the end is a listing of how-to's and what-to-avoid's - thank you, Just Evelyn."

"... mom. I need to be a girl" is, in my honest opinion, essential reading for any parent whose child is transsexual. The book is a testament to unconditional love for one's child. Rare would be the transperson who doesn't get a bit wistful and misty-eyed reading Evelyn's account of her child's trials and tribulations and her own unfailing support of her child.

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