In her striking and deeply personal memoir She/Him/Us: A Psychiatrist’s Search for Her Daughter in the Transgender Sea, Dr. Lisa Bellot confronts one of the most emotionally charged issues of our time through the lens of both a psychiatrist and a mother. The book chronicles her journey as she navigates the turbulent waters of her daughter’s sudden identification as transgender, a revelation that forced her to question not only her medical training but also her most intimate instincts as a parent. What emerges is a gripping and reflective narrative that challenges prevailing assumptions about gender identity, the mental health profession, and what it truly means to love and protect one’s child.
Dr. Bellot’s story begins with the shock and confusion that many parents of trans-identified teens experience. As a seasoned psychiatrist with two decades of clinical experience in California, she believed she had seen nearly everything the human mind could present. Yet when her own teenage daughter announced she was trans, Bellot found herself facing an entirely new emotional and moral frontier. She describes the moment with raw vulnerability, not as a detached clinician but as a mother whose world has tilted off its axis. Her initial instinct was not to affirm, but to pause and understand. The question that drives the memoir is not simply whether her daughter is transgender, but how a parent can respond when every cultural, medical, and social current demands unquestioning affirmation while her inner voice insists that something deeper needs to be explored.
